How To Use Your Fear To Achieve Your Goals
We are all afraid of something, but if you let fear win, you’ll never be able to grow.
“Why can’t I be like everybody else and do something with it?”
That question was in my head for many years and the answer was that I was afraid to even start something.
I was afraid of failure, of people mocking my work, or worst, telling me I’m not good at what I do. But if you what that accomplishment feeling you need to take a step out of your sweet comfort zone and embrace your fear.
Believe me, in no time you il surprise yourself with what you can accomplish.
How do you escape Fear?
Author Mark Manson once joked, ‘How do you get rid of runners block?’ ‘You go for a f*cking run’.
How do you escape Fear? Multiple it and run with it. Your greatest fear is the best possible moment in your life. It can drive you to your greatest achievements.
Some years ago I wanted to work in journalism because at the moment it was what I believed the best idea for me. I didn’t know how I can work it out and I was thinking I will never do it. But some months later, after I was afraid to do even a single step towards it.
I put aside my fear and I applied at one of the major news publications in my country. The result was that a week later I was working there. And I worked in journalism for the past years, just because I have had a moment when I took the fear by the neck and run with it.
If you overthink everything and let your fear dictate your life you will not make much of it. And you’ll hate yourself. Believe me, there are plenty of moments that you miss because your brain takes the wheel and forces you to hide.
This is the “fight or run” thinking. In no time you will find that the run is the easy part and for a moment you will feel safe and satisfied with your choice.
In the long term… you will hate yourself.
Other people are afraid too. It’s just that you can’t see it
We all fear something. Is in our nature to feel fear because that’s what made us aware of our surroundings and kept us alive for many thousands of years.
But that doesn’t mean that you need to take a step back and hide in your cavern because you are afraid. It means that you can take that fear and use it for something good in your life.
“The fear of criticism robs man of his initiative, destroys his power of imagination, limits his individuality, takes away his self-reliance, and dose him damage in a hundred other ways. — Napoleon Hill.
For so long I was afraid about almost everything in my life and that thinking made me hide and not enjoy anything. I was afraid to even go to an interview for a new job because I feared that I’ll be laughed at. I was afraid to ask a girl out.
In order to use your fear you need to:
- realize what you want to do
- find what fear is not letting you achieve what you want
- find the benefits of that thing and put them down on a paper
- imagine yourself do the thing you want to do
You will find that pleasure and fulfillment are stronger than your fear. You need to do the thing because you are meant to do it, and no fear will let you skip that and go back to your ordinary life.
As you imagine the feeling you will see that on the other side you will not find fear. You will find something that makes you happy and feels accomplished.
Embrace your fear
It comes a moment in life when you need to realize that you can use that fear and build something wonderful of it. To be honest, I’m terrified to write on this platform, I keep thinking ‘what others will say? what if I embers myself?’ and other lovely questions that keep me awake at night.
You don’t have to climb Mount Everest so you can say that you overcome your fear, you don’t need to quit your job or do something extreme just so you can escape fear.
Instead, try and embrace your fear every day and try to use it in small amounts to escape the self-build cage that you created yourself.